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| Dan Savage |
I'm not here to preach or to use other people's problems as a springboard for my own publicity, but with all the controversy surrounding
Dan Savage's It Gets Better Campaign, I think that as a Gay Man with a public forum, it is my responsibility to at least voice my thoughts on the matter.
Billy Lucas, Justin Aaberg, Tyler Clementi, Asher Brown and Raymond Chase are four five teen males who were reported tragically to have committed suicide over the past few weeks. Each of them had been intimidated by their peers for being Gay; some we're not even sure were Gay.
Although I was pretty fortunate to have grown up around a group of supportive friends, there have been times in my life even as an adult where I too have been mocked for being Gay - whether it be out shopping, walking my dog, on the subway or even in the workplace. And even though I have become rather thick-skinned about it, I want you to know that even as an adult, being laughed at still hurts to some degree. Invalidating someone for something they have no control over is cruel. If that person on the receiving end of it were your brother or your sister, how would you feel?
And although I think the message behind Savage's campaign is wonderful, somewhere amidst all the pleas for Celebrities to join the cause, the true heart and soul of the message is getting lost. Instead, the vibe I'm getting is that those who are influencial are using this indirectly as an opportunity to shine the light upon themselves, when this is all about the generation of Kids whose voices aren't fully developed yet.
Do I think it's a good thing that Celebrities like Ellen DeGeneres or Perez Hilton are sending a positive message out to Gay Youth? Absolutely. But what we need to remember though is that every situation is unique and simply telling kids to love themselves and be strong isn't enough. In fact, it's rather delusional. We don't see their realities or histories - what their family lives are like nor do we know the extent to which they are being bullied. And I know for a fact that life isn't always easy for Gay people even as adults. If anything, it can be bloody complicated.